Serenity
The real sign of serenity is not seen so much in the face, as found in the depth and stillness of the eyes.
How To Get Balance in Life
The indication of balance in life is a sense of well-being, optimism, and a clear conscience. The foundation for achieving this is to look after ourselves spiritually — making our minds peaceful, loving, and thoughtful at all times. Then we will instinctively know how much time to spend on our well-being and how much to fulfill other responsibilities. We can only give our best to others when we are ourselves at our best.
Your Decision-Making Ability
It is extremely important to realize that, in any situation, you have the power to choose whether your response in that situation will be passive or pro-active, positive or negative, indifferent or attentive, etc. You choose what action you take and how you feel.
But do you exercise your power of choice all the time?
You need to check which factors influence your decision-making and push you either in one direction or the other. There are many factors that control and limit your power to make the right and, more importantly, free choices. These factors primarily include the influences of people that dominate your ways of thinking, beliefs, attitudes, even your complete personality, etc.
You are also limited by the influence of your own fears, attachments, desires, biases, or other negative and waste thoughts, which result in a lack of focus.
Many people are not used to thinking for themselves or even prefer being a ‘yes’ man going along with what others think and say without having an opinion of their own.
Also, as you pass through your childhood and teenage life and enter adulthood, you acquire many preconceived ideas or beliefs from your family and social and cultural environment; that is why you assume inside that some things or people are always positive and others are always negative when, in fact, that’s not necessarily true. This directly affects the type of decisions you make, each time there is a requirement for one. In any particular situation, courage, wisdom, high self-esteem, and focus are required to sit down calmly and make an assessment about the possible choices before you, and then finally make the right decision.
The more you practice relaxation, positive thinking, and meditation, the more you rise above all the negatively influencing factors mentioned above, the more you experience the positive qualities and powers mentioned above, and exercise your power of choice accurately and with confidence.
Are you going to be dominated by your fears and others’ negatively powerful influences, which paralyze your judgment power and confuse you sometimes, or will you exercise your choice?
When someone dominates you, they control you and make you feel irritated, frustrated, and weak; they satisfy their own ego like that by controlling you and bringing you under their influence. You need to decide if you are comfortable being a victim of the other by being the one who satisfies the egos of others. It is not a very healthy attitude on their part, but it happens in many relationships, and we fall prey to that because of a lack of spiritual power.
Get back your personal ruling and controlling power, and do not be afraid to be free and responsible for your choices. From today on, promise yourself that you will not allow your husband or wife, or children, or your friend, or mother-in-law, or your office colleague, anybody for that matter, influence the power of choice, the power to decide, that you possess.
In the end, they will be happier, perhaps not at first, because a power game is created. Your personal freedom will lead to a healthier relationship in the long run. It’s fine to take an opinion or a viewpoint or support from someone, but there is a fine line between that and being controlled by someone, which we, many times, cross and become a victim.
You are free when you take responsibility for what you are and how you feel. In meditation, you can realize everything that has influenced you and know how to clear it so that only the highest, the most positive, influence you. This depends on each one of us. There are many influencing factors in our present society, from the most negative, violent, corrupt, and mediocre to the purest, highest, and most spiritual. It depends on each one what you want to consume and allow to be influenced by.
Message for the day
The true joy of living lies in the ability to enjoy the present moment.
What it tells you: The one who can remain in the present can learn from the past and bring out the best in the self. Also, there is a clear vision of the future, so all the energies are directed towards that vision. The mind is neither totally caught up with the past nor the future. Since there is attention to the present moment, there is the ability to use it to the fullest extent.
What you should experience: When I am in the present, I can remain aware of the present’s gifts. Having learned from the past, I can enrich myself from my different experiences. As I am also clear about where I have to go, I enjoy the journey and also move on towards constant success.
